If life is supposed to be a test I think I got the Kobayashi Maru shirt I can certainly understand what you’re saying. My mother died 10 yrs ago of Alzheimer’s. She started with a slow onset dementia which she had for about 12 yrs before full-blown Alzheimer’s set in. By the time she died (another 8 yrs later) the mother I had known had died or disappeared a good 7 yrs before her physical death. By that stage I wasn’t capable of mourning any more I had spent years watching her vanish, watching her personality change, not knowing the person who had once been my best friend. Visiting this stranger weekly who didn’t recognize me and who had become so nasty when she did and finally the only way we knew that she was alive was by the sheet moving up and down with her breathing. Finally, death came as a relief to all of us
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I’m grieving for my father who is still alive. Dementia has taken my dad and left a man that I don’t know. He’s my dad, and If life is supposed to be a test I think I got the Kobayashi Maru shirt, of course, I love him and will take care of him to the end. But I don’t like him very much, and it kills me that I feel this way. Please don’t be critical of how anyone deals with this awful, awful disease. Some of us were single, had teenage children and a job to hold down, so hands-on caretaking quickly became impossible. I was lucky in that my parents had the funds for in-home care, then after my father died, I was able to place my mother in a nice facility. Frankly, my father’s terminal cancer diagnosis was far easier for me to deal with emotionally than was my mother’s Alzheimer’s diagnosis. With my father’s I knew what was to come. With my mother’s, so much uncertainty. Please don’t judge people about how they handle these situations.
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Totally understand, my mother-in-law was diagnosed with dementia in 2010. We looked after her for 2 years at home. Then my husband was diagnosed with cancer & he needed surgery, so our lovely Mum went into residential care. 8 years on aged 98 years she hasn’t known us for years, & flinches if we touch her. She sleeps most of the time, can’t speak, there is no interaction at all. Destressing isn’t the word. We visit when we can as the cancer is back, & we’re back & forth to the hospital. I totally agree that it is hard to lose a parent but still have to care for them physically. By the time they die the grieving for them has already been done, so it might seem that we have no emotion but really that emotion has been given over years of caring. Remember the good times and focus on them.